My wedding was the best day of my life – then came the crash --[Reported by Umva mag]

Wedding planner and venue owner Alison Rios McCrone helps solve your dilemmas, no matter how big or small, in a weekly agony aunt column.

Dear Alison,

I got married last week and I loved it. I truly understand why people say that your wedding day is the best day of your life. 

But a couple of days afterwards, once we’d got back home, all the presents had been unwrapped, and the initial flurry of guests’ texts and pictures came through, I started to feel quite a deep sadness. 

It’s no reflection on my new husband: he’s fantastic, and actually, he feels this way, too. 

We both put so much into planning this day, and it was perfect. We’re excited for the next chapter but it feels like we’ve eaten tonnes of sugar and now we’re crashing. 

We’re months away from getting our professional pictures and videos, and our honeymoon is scheduled for next year. Now, it’s just back to work and writing thank you letters.

Do you have any tips for overcoming the post-wedding blues? 

Marie

Dear Marie, 

Congratulations on your wedding!  

It is wonderful that your special day was everything you hoped for.  

You may be glad to hear that it’s not uncommon for you to feel this way after the wedding. After many months (or even years) of planning, the whirlwind of excitement and anticipation can leave a void when everything is finally over. 

Having a low moment after such an intense period of happiness and wedding planning is OK. The excitement doesn’t have to stop; it shifts into something more sustainable and meaningful as you move forward together.

Recognise that what you are experiencing is natural and also temporary. 

Instead of focusing on the ‘end’ of the wedding celebrations, reframe this time as the beginning of a new chapter in your life. Your marriage is the start of something even more exciting and long-lasting. 

You are only just starting on this lifelong adventure with your husband, and there are lots of things to look forward to.

Even though your honeymoon is next year, why not arrange a mini break before then? A short getaway will give you something to look forward to and break up the routine.

It doesn’t have to be extravagant – a weekend in the countryside, a visit to a nearby city, or even a spa retreat could offer the perfect reset and give you both time to unwind after all the wedding excitement.

You can also lean into missing the wedding planning by talking about your memories of the day with your spouse while you wait for your professional photos and videos. Reminiscing together can help you remember the day. 

Consider contacting your photographer and videographer to see if they can provide a sneak peek of some highlights. A few teaser images or clips could help you relive it all while you wait for the complete package to be ready.

Marriage is about building a life together, made up of everyday moments. Create new ‘firsts’ as a married couple, like trying a new recipe together, redecorating a room, starting a hobby you can share, or date nights to new places.

Plus, weddings can be exhausting, physically and emotionally. Allow yourself time to rest and recharge. Go for a relaxing walk, pamper yourselves at home or a local spa. 

Taking care of your mental health is essential in adjusting from wedding excitement to everyday life.

The magic of the wedding day may have passed, but the magic of marriage is just beginning. Be mindful to prioritise your relationship even in the small, seemingly mundane moments. Surprise your spouse with little gestures of love, plan cosy evenings, or have deep conversations about your future dreams and goals.

While it may feel like life is suddenly less exciting, there’s a certain beauty in routine. So embrace your new status as a married couple. Set new habits, like enjoying breakfast together, sharing household tasks, or doing something small that brings joy to your daily lives. 

It might not be the same as a big party with all your loved ones around you, but marking smaller milestones can help reignite excitement and anticipation in your life.

Talking about how you’re feeling with your spouse can lighten the load. As you mentioned, he also feels the same so lean on each other for support. Verbalising your emotions can help you process and move through them more smoothly.

It might be a good time to take up a new hobby, or arrange dinner dates with friends you have not seen in a while, or other couples. Start filling up your diary with dates you never had time to do during all that wedding planning – you get to pour into other relationships while having that fulfilment of a busy calendar again.

As Christmas approaches, start focussing on your plans for the festive holidays and all the arrangements you need to make for your first Christmas together as a married couple

It will not be long until the New Year, and you still have the excitement of your honeymoon to look forward to.

Remember these low feelings will pass as you adapt into a new chapter as husband and wife.

Wishing you both love, joy, and many happy moments ahead!

Best wishes,
Alison

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